Belonging | A feeling that troubled most of us.

Have you ever felt like you don’t belong anywhere? Ever felt very anxious because ‘you are trapped’ in where you are, out of place and maybe even a little depressed because of all that?

You don’t have to worry; you are not alone and certainly you are not an alien like you may think you are since childhood. In our generation, almost everyone feels that under certain circumstances. Whether it is because of that one moment in your life, stress you are having, education, childhood related memories or loss of someone who you held dear.

Personally, for me it played out like this; I once or twice felt out of place back in my own country. It was a small island; struggling with financial problems, issues between society and government; issues with literally the whole world to be honest. In time, it became a little less distressing of a place to me, because of the fact that, as funny as it sounds, it was an island separated from the middle. Yes, I’m talking about Cyprus and as a kid who wanted to achieve her goals and live a very different life than the one she was having, I felt like I didn’t belong there. At least, at that very moment. After all, we are the generation which have been fed with the idea that we need to succeed in our lives at a young age, learn more, travel non-stop and earn excessively.

A few years on, I am still studying but in a different country, planning my future somewhere different than where I currently am. I still get that feeling, every once in a while, working on my projects, travelling somewhere new or looking out of my window, for a second, while cleaning my room.

Sad, very painful at times but it is fairly normal, unless it is dark and depressing at a point where you can’t take it anymore. This could happen because of numerous reasons and no one is to blame; (perhaps society? I don’t know you be the judge!) But it’s especially not down to you, you are not weird. Let me repeat; YOU ARE NOT WEIRD. Let’s talk about some of the reasons, and in my opinion what can be done to satisfy this part of you, at least a little.

It might be because you are one of those people we consider as HSP (Highly Sensitive People), maybe you are really different than the others around you, maybe you just need new experiences, more travelling, a new job, meet new people or even more reading. But rather than sitting in your room, feeling isolated, sad and letting the negative feeling consume you, why don’t you take the chance and do exactly what I suggested here somewhere?

-Travel more

-Read more

-Change your music list for a change.

-Make new friends without breaking your connection with the old friends and family

-Change your job if it is needed, we are all about the liquidity!

-New leisure time activity maybe? Books, gym and photography works for me!

The list goes on, and on, and on… But most importantly talk to people. Talk to anyone and everyone about it. Don’t ever let strong feelings drive you on edge. After all, it is important to be happy and healthy, the way you and only you want. Now please, cheer up!